The User’s Guide to Sleight of Mouth: How to Unleash the Magic of Language to Persuade Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere
The User's Guide to Sleight of Mouth: How to Unleash the Magic of Language to Persuade Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere (9781463511036): Doug O'Brien: Books
What is Sleight of Mouth? Sleight of Mouth is a persuasion skill, a vehicle for conversationally changing beliefs. It is a system of 14 different patterns of response to a stated belief. A system that, once mastered, can allow you to always have a response that will effectively elucidate your position and help you to persuade rather than be persuaded. Simply put, it will help you win any argument, be verbally powerful and powerfully verbal. Where Did Sleight of Mouth Come From? Sleight of Mouth is a result of the methodology of NLP (Nuero Linguistic Programming) being applied to NLP itself, or, more properly, to Richard Bandler's debate skills. NLP grew out of Richard Bandler and John Grinder analyzing and codifying the methods of a number of the 20th Century's great therapists like Milton Erickson, Virginia Satir and others. Robert Dilts, one of Bandler and Grinder's early students, applied this same methodology to Bandler's own unique way with people. In his NLP Certification courses, Bandler would challenge participants to use their newly acquired skills to persuade him that a belief system adopted for the occasion (eg."I can't see the curve, therefore the world is flat.") was wrong. As hard as they tried, Bandler was always able to field an army of responses to turn their "logical" arguments around. Dilts was able to discern the patterns of persuasion that Bandler used. Dilts systemized the patterns into specific categories and developed an elegant flow chart of them which makes it wonderfully easy and fun to use. "The User's Guide to Sleight of Mouth" by Doug O'Brien teaches you this system in a wonderfully succinct and user-friendly manner that will have you using it in no time. Here's just some of what you'll learn: * The inner structure of Beliefs. It's true – every belief has the same inner structure and – once you know that – you can unlock and unpack any belief that comes your way * The Agreement Frame – it's like verbal Aikido. * The Precision Model – a powerful, yet simple, technique to bust through any fluffy language you hear people using and get them to be more specific and accurate * The Polya Patterns of Plausible Inference * Fourteen different "Sleight of Mouth" patterns for reframing those beliefs * Much much More
- Paperback: 142 pages
- Publisher: CreateSpace (August 9, 2011)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1463511035
- ISBN-13: 978-1463511036
- Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.4 inches
- Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces
A user’s User Guide!
As a student of NLP I was introduced to Sleight of Mouth a long time ago. Very recently I attended a talk given by Robert DIlts, the co-developer of NLP who created of Sleight of Mouth, and was reminded of my interest in the subject. So I did a search on line to find more information, found this book by Doug O’Brien and decided to give it a try.
I am very glad I did. The book delivered exactly what it promised. It offers a very clear, easy to understand approach to using this material that has left me with a real feeling of competence in this area. Since reading the book and doing some of the exercises suggested by the author, I am noticeably more influential not only at my job but in my personal relationships as well. I have already recommended it to a number of my friends and colleagues and feel strongly that it is an invaluable road map for anyone on the road to maximum persuasion skills.
Doug O’Brien is a very highly skilled teacher, trainer and practitioner of both NLP and Ericksonian Hypnosis. I have attended many of his live seminars on various subjects over the years and have always enjoyed his humorous but in-depth training style. I believe Doug was one of the first in the country to teach Sleight of Mouth with the permission and endorsement of it’s creator, Robert Dilts, and has been teaching it for nearly two decades. When I took his live training in Sleight of Mouth I found that he successfully combines detailed explanations with active engagement, and a wonderful sense of humor that makes learning fun.
I am thrilled that Doug has published this book on Sleight of Mouth because it captures his fun teaching style and puts it into the pages of the book. The writing is conversational and light in tone, but covers all the material in a thorough way that makes it easy to learn. It is also filled with new examples and suggestions that deepened my understanding of how Sleight of Mouth can be used in many contexts, including conflict integration.
In my opinion the title of the book, “The User’s Guide to Sleight of Mouth,” is very accurate because, while it is relatively short – like a guide book – it is a huge contribution to my being able to actually USE this material in my real life. I have already noticed myself using it in business meetings and seeing very rewarding results.
I am delighted to give both Doug and this new book my highest recommendation!
Co-founder, Cytosorbents, Inc. (Formerly RenalTech International – Medical Device company)
Founder, New York Power Team
I RECOMMEND DOUG O’BRIEN
This review is based upon my experiences attending Sleight Of Mouth Training taught by the author, Doug O’Brien. Sleight of Mouth is a set of language patterns that were derived from observing how some of the world’s best communicators are able to help people change their thinking. While these skills can be useful to almost anyone, some of the people who might benefit the most include salespeople, therapists, parents, coaches, and teachers. I personally use these skills as an attorney and CrossFit trainer. The skills are often taught as part of an advanced NLP training class. I have been studying NLP since the 1980s and I have trained with many of the world’s leading trainers including Robert Dilts and Richard Bandler, the developers of Sleight of Mouth. It is my understanding that Robert Dilts is also endorsing Doug O’Briens Sleight of Mouth work. Doug O’Brien is one of my favorite NLP trainers.
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Brilliant book . Shows the actual methods we use to initiate cognition. Few of us wonder how we finish up in unwanted situations, we excuse the result by saying people are different, this does not help! we need to understand specifically HOW to do communication better. this book shows how. Need I say more,… yes…. BUY IT….. USE IT.
I was introduced to NLP through the work of Tony Robbins. I have read his books, listened to his CDs and have attended his seminars. After meeting Richard Bandler in March of 2012, he referred me to the work of Doug O’Brien. My first purchase was the Sleight of Mouth CD Set & Workbook. After listening to the CDs and going through the workbook, I was hungry for more so I purchased the Sleight of Mouth book. The combination of all three forms of media made it really easy to understand the concept of Sleight of Mouth.
If you have ever wondered how Robbins and Bandler are able to do pattern interrupts, the Sleight of Mouth book is for you. If you are not able to attend a live event on Sleight of Mouth with Doug O’Brien, get this material and study it. Not only will it show you how to influence others, it will also help you to examine your own beliefs.
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